Social Engagement - 24th May 2021

The study of how humans interact is a very complex one but a very important one. A great deal of the stress we experience is social stress....stress within families, between people at work, how we imagine other people may be thinking about us and so on.

Also, as babies and young children we start to form unconscious habits of how to engage with others...sometimes these can be successful habits and sometimes less successful. None of this is our fault because the habits are forming before we are old enough to be consciously aware of them. The slides and the reading offer an insight into this complex world but in simple terms you can just consider the following:

• the best stress response will often be 'not to become stressed'

• if you are with people you enjoy being with and who you respect and trust then this acts as a brake on your nervous system...you don't need to go into fight and flight

• so creating good relationships at home and at work is a very important way of protecting your long-term wellbeing because too much stress is not good for us in the long-term

• in turn this may mean you working hard to improve relationships that need some attention or it might mean finding effective ways of managing difficult relationships

• where relationships cause stress then you can reduce the harmful effects of this with the other tools we are helping you with: improved sleep quality, better nutrition, mindfulness and exercise...these are all self-regulation practices.

• the better your co-regulation (the effects of being with other people...laughing, eating together, playing, sharing interests, competing in positive ways, loving etc.) the less you may need to use formal self-regulation tools

• for most of us we need both...we need good co-regulation and we need to support that with skilful use of self-regulation

It's a complex area so please email mark@7futures.com if you need any more help on this subject.

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Mark is the founder of 7Futures and has been consulting in workplace resilience, wellbeing and performance since 2000. He is a resilience coach, an FA coach (working for several years at Leicester City FC) and also a mindfulness teacher. He is the only UK consultant to have completed the USA based MMFT training programme and is supporting the Mindfulness Initiative for the UK Armed Forces. Formerly a CEO of J Rothschild International Assurance with responsibility for their European, Americas and Far Eastern operations, Mark has over 20 years of international financial services experience and a deep understanding of the pressures leaders need to manage. He remains a founding partner in one of the West Midlands most respected nursing care groups which has been providing essential care since 1988.

Colleen Mizuki is the former Director of Training for the Mind Fitness Training Institute. This not for profit institute researched and designed the resilience and performance enhancement programme for the US Marines over a 7 year period. She is a certified trainer for Innovation Strengths Preference Indicator (ISPI™), HeartMath, Cultural Intelligence (CQ®), Social + Emotional Intelligence Profile (SEIP), Mindfulness-based Mind Fitness Training (MMFT®), and in Unconscious Bias and Somatic Experiencing. Colleen is also a Cadre speaker for U.S. National Guard and Reserve Service Members and their families, pre- and post-deployment, in emotional intelligence, resilience, and stress management. She is a contributing author to Healing War Trauma: A Handbook of Creative Approaches, Routledge Press, 2013. In addition to her role at 7Futures, Colleen is the Lead Designer and Director of Training for McKellar Corporation, preparing advisors for extended deployments around the world as ministerial advisors (Afghanistan, Iraq, Eastern Europe, and Africa). She holds an A.A. in Laser Electro-Optics Technology, B.A in French, Chinese and Economics, M.A. in Counseling Psychology, and certification as a Professional Coach.

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